Standing Up To Mean Behavior/Bullies
Your Child Is Learning
*The definition of mean behavior is: any actions, body language, or words that hurt a person's feelings, reputation, friendships, body or property. *Students will identify and apply strategies to stand up to a mean behavior/bully. *Students will identify and apply strategies to be a helpful bystander. *Students will recognize the school rules regarding mean behavior and that there are consequences for a person's actions. *The difference between teasing and bullying: Teasing= all involved have equal power and positive feelings; Bullying=unequal power and negative feelings. *Students will identify and apply strategies to stand up to a mean behavior/bully. *Students will identify and apply strategies to be a helpful bystander. *Students will recognize the school rules regarding mean behavior and that there are consequences for a person's actions. *The difference between teasing and bullying: Teasing: all involved have equal power and positive feelings; Bullying: unequal power and negative feeling. *Students will identify situations where immediate adult intervention is needed. |
How You Can Help Your Child
Always Act Confident and Walk Away from the bully no matter what the strategy chosen: 1. Assert yourself by stating what you want 2. Strength in numbers 3. Use humor 4. Use kindness 5. Change to a compliment 6. Agree 7. Change the subject 8. Positive self talk 9. Give factual information Ask An Adult For Help. Children are always encouraged to talk to an adult they trust about the situation and know that this is NOT tattling.Encourage your children to report bullying to an adult they trust. All staff at Stewart are trained that when a child reports that they will not share who reported to the bully. Chances are more than one person saw the mean behavior and adults will share that it has been reported to them that___etc.
By joining with other students talk to the bully and say: "We saw what you did to ___ and it isn't cool you need to knock it off or someone is going to report you." It is important you contact your child's teacher, counselor or principal if you have concerns regarding your child. The school can't help if we don't know what is happening. |
Resources
Books For Parents The Bully, The Bullied and the Bystander Barbara Coloroso Bully Proofing Your Child: A Parents Guide C.Garity, M. Baris What to do...When Kids are Mean to Your Child: Real Solutions from Experts, Parents,Kids Elin McCoy Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From the Myths of Boyhood William Pollack, PhD. Queen Bees & Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and other realities of Adolescence R. Wiseman Books For Children My Secret Bully and Numerous other books by Trudy Ludwig (K-5) Bullies Are A Pain in the Brain Trevor Romain (K-5) Nobody Knew What To Do B. McCain(K-5) |